Plur, But Make It Real

I think the idea behind PLUR is genuine but the reality is far less, like a lot of things in this life. Peace, Love, Unity, Respect except no one is doing that and experiencing "kindness" for a weekend or at a show is starting to feel like absolutely nothing when the branches don't extend into the real world. Or, how I'm starting to think about it is that it's so surface level that once you've graduated to any emotional depth you can tangibly feel it's empty reality. I want to invite you into the depths with me.

I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine who was sharing his experience of a recent heartbreak. I've been navigating a heartbreak myself and wanted his advice. He said to me something along the lines of needing to go back to when we didn't emotionally invest a lot in relationships therefor the hurt doesn't sting as bad in the ended. Ouch. I'm not judging, in fact for 2.5 seconds I thought maybe he was right. Sitting here in my own heartbreak that notion is sounding pretty damn nice. But, this is exactly the kind of ideology that is holding us back collectively. I'm willing to bet that he received this advice from someone when he was in a vulnerable state, solidifying the idea that he somehow, somewhere became too much and needed to dial back. Or, that his own extreme discomfort of his emotional depths are reminding him that it was much easier to engage in the love, and surface level kindness he once knew. Similar to the ideas of PLUR; passing smiles, hugs from Molly, respect that comes in the form of "I support you dude" with no literal support, and oh yea my favorite... "keep the vibes high" aka leave your truth at home if it's anything less than a good mindset.

The crazy thing is that this is real advice we receive from our "friends" and community. We might ask ourselves "what's wrong with me" that I can't just shift my perspective on demand, and we might try to hold ourselves accountable to it too. If we manage to convince ourselves of it then it makes us feel better for one night; until we realize that there is no returning to the surface from the depths once we've been there and there is also no running from ourselves which now includes emotional depth. Welcome to enlightenment, we love it here. What is unhealed will always catch up. Whether that happens at the lowest point in your life because you've been running from it for so long that when it does catch up you're already exhausted but still have to confront it, is completely up to you. Take my advice, don't do that! It's a real mind fuck. The solution is not repressing or hiding from the incredibly raw emotional you, but asking yourself the right questions (this means asking yourself new questions too). And sometimes this means crying angry, yet healing, tears at a show while everyone else around you is having fun... it's like I know this because it happened to me or something.

My contribution to "raising the vibration" won't come to you in the form of good vibes and sunshine. I'm sorry, I'm just not that girl. I will cut loose with you, I will laugh with you, I will be young wild and free too. I will love you deeply, I will hold space for you, I will speak truth to you and validate that everything is as it should be. I will encourage you to choose something different when the place you're in feels out of alignment. If you fall, I will pick you up, brush the dirt off, and remind you of every fucking beautiful piece of yourself. I will be honest about what I do and do not have to give, and help you find someone if I am not that person. Most importantly, I will hold your hand as you explore your emotional depths with great devotion. I submit to you the idea of PLUR but making it real and incorporating in your everyday life. Below I've suggested some revision to the OG PLUR terms, I call this living PLUR. Let's make this life more inclusive and less isolating.

PEACE

We're all here together, whether or not we have a "good time" is completely up to where we are at on our personal journeys. If it's not a good one then that's ok there is still space for you to be here and we will make room for wide range of emotions and live experiences taking place. The expected outcome is to have an experience that we need not a romanticized idea of what that experience should be, you know "if you're doing it right".

LOVE

Bring your emotional depth with you. Open your heart by whatever means helps you shatter the layers of shit surrounding it. Good, bad, indifferent, it doesn't matter. Take that experience and evolve from it in the sobering moments. Know that there are many tools/medicines/modalities that when used correctly help you connect to higher and deeper reflections of yourself in order to grow (emotional depth). You can only spread and receive the degree of love that you have for yourself and if that love isn't high vibrational right now, that's ok, let me love you anyways. Enlightenment is nothing more than keeping your heart open when your fear/trauma/stories tell you to close it.

UNITY

We're all united in this one place (the 3D) for many different reasons but it is all connected. People really are coming from all walks of life to experience something special together so when they show up looking different than you (physically, emotionally, spiritually), and they will, ask questions instead of making judgements. And lower your god damn expectations for yourself and others. Not everything has to be rainbows and butterflies all the fucking time to mean it is what is "right" or "in the best good for all parties involved"

RESPECT

Respect yourself, and use your voice to state what this looks like from others towards you. Respect others, listen to them when they tell you what they need to feel safe and respected. If you can't give them that then be honest and point them in the direction of someone who can. If people are working through seasons of low self respect then honor their journey, no need to remind them of this. Be sensitive to others, check your intentions at every door you arrive at (the door here = human).

With great love, Mandeebeth